Josh’s Story

" Five year old Josh saw his mum brutally stabbed by his father - causing him to suffer horrific nightmares long after the family was safe. "

The legacy of living for years in an extremely violent environment, can mean children remain in a constant state of anxiety, alertness, and fear, even when they are finally safe.

Haunted day and night

Josh is the youngest of three children. His mother was brutalised by his father for years, and she barely escaped with her life. Although they broke free of the situation, Josh and his family were not free of the trauma and they were all haunted by disturbing memories day and night.

" Exposure to domestic violence can be like living in a war zone. You never know where the next assault is going to come from, and are constantly on the lookout for warning signs. A traumatised parent can find it difficult to support their child emotionally when they are struggling to cope themselves. "

Lasting effect of trauma

Mum would cry whenever the abuse was mentioned and was unable to provide her kids with the comfort and assurance they needed. The children, particularly Josh, retreated into themselves and suffered in silence.

Alone with his nightmares

How we helped

When Josh came to Act for Kids he, along with his mum, brother and sister, showed severe symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. They were constantly on edge due to the extreme domestic violence they had experienced.

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Through intensive family therapy sessions with Act for Kids’ therapists, Josh and his family re-discovered their family strengths, abilities, interests and values which helped to restore their self-esteem, confidence, resilience, hope and pride. Mum learned how to become attuned and attend to her children’s psychological needs, increasing their capacity to turn to her for help.

" Through art and talking, the kids were able to share their feelings, memories, questions, concerns and beliefs about their experiences of the violence and their imagined and actual sense of threat that remained. "

Rebuilding a family’s life

While understanding the long term impact of trauma, the family was encouraged not to be defined by the abuse. We helped them instigate new activities that had previously not been possible – creating an arts and craft corner in their home, hosting birthday parties and sleep overs, having dinner together at the dining table and going on a camping trip.

The bigger problem

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Source: Australian Institute of Health and Welfare, Child protection Australia 2013-14

Abuse and neglect

" Of the more than 40,000 kids who experience substantiated abuse and neglect in Australia, the majority (40%) experience emotional abuse, followed by neglect (28%). "

Abuse and neglect can impact a child’s brain development, how they feel and think about themselves, how successful they are at school, even their physical development and skills. In the long term this can lead to drug and alcohol abuse, mental illness, difficulty developing and maintaining good relationships, unemployment and all sorts of social disadvantage.

Early intervention makes a world of difference

After just three months the family is making great progress. We provided brief but intensive exposure therapy for mum and now, rather than avoid talking about the abuse Mum can recall the violence without becoming emotionally flooded. This means she has a much greater capacity to help her children manage their own trauma and they have now begun family therapy.

While abuse and trauma too often takes place within the context of family relationships, Act for Kids believes with the right support and assistance family relationships can be a source of true healing and repair and prevent children such as Josh from feeling alone with his nightmares any longer.

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Dr Neil Carrington

CEO
Act for Kids

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